Forgiveness

I forgive, for all the things that people did to me and I take that as a lesson. I know that life is not all sweet and I know that there will be days when pain and suffering will find their way to my door. I accept it and I treat them as equal. Yes, I believe that Allah gave me those things for a reason and it is something I have to live with so I don't see why I should feel bad about it. I understand that sometimes, I will find it hard to accept everything in one bite but trust me when I say this, I will one day. Slowly but surely. Do not feel bad for what had happened because I don't. 

As the saying goes, 

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional

So it's your choice.

Sorry for a short one, I have to let this one out. I'll write more. Till then, love. 

On marriage (AGAIN!)

Hello readers!

I had a talk with my sister the other day about marriage. Since she's already married, it's natural for her, as my older sister, to advice me to get married as soon as possible. I get her point and I respect her views but being me, I know that marriage is not something I would want to focus on at the moment. I know myself too well and I know that I can't settle down just yet. There's so much I want to do and though I know I can always do it with someone, a husband, by my side, it would not be the same as doing things on my own. 

I guess part of me wishes for freedom. Coming from a very strict family, I grew up fine but having lack of exposure to the real world, I kinda want to explore the world once I get the sweet taste of freedom. Although technically I don't have total freedom, I still get to view the world on my own. (sometimes without the knowledge of my parents. sorry mama abah) And talking about freedom, I don't mean that all this time, my parents kept me in, lock in my room, NO! I meant, my parents were more careful when deciding to let me out into the 'wild'. I totally understand their decision but it has its pros and cons. 

The kind of freedom that I want is not as big as you think. I just wanted to go to places without the accompany of my parents or family. Again, don't get me wrong, I love going to places with them but it's not the same as going to places on my own. You learn more things when you're alone and when you're with family, you don't really experience things first hand. I find that I don't know even the very basic thing on how to survive in the real world because I always have someone else to do it for me. I don't want to live that way and I don't wish to learn to depend on other people for everything. 

So, getting married is still in the to do list but I'm not in a rush to scratch that off my to do list. Trust me, like other girls, I do want to have my own family, have babies and what not, but if I don't get the chance to do this for myself, I will never learn. So this freedom is not so much of a freedom but more of a learning process. So I hope this will clear up why I wish not to think of marriage at the moment.

If you're going through the same thing as I am, I highly encourage you to follow your heart, Do whatever is best for you and don't let other people decide things for you that you know you can't follow. But take their advises sebab tak semua yang pahit tu racun. They love you, that is why they want the best for you. I hope you get what you need in the future and I pray for happiness for everyone. Jangan stress kalau orang desak suruh kahwin. Mintak orang yang desak awak tu doakan yang terbaik je untuk awak. Lepas tu forget everything, pergi travel, have fun, take pictures banyak banyak! 

kahkah

The Heart

Love, I learn, is not something you can work on. You can’t possibly work your way into someone’s heart like how you would climb a mountain. You can never do such things because unlike climbing mountains, you can always rest assure that there will be a point at the top of the mountain that you can reach and when you’re up there, the view will be great. It will be worth the time going up there with sweat and tears side by side as you try to reach your destination. 

Sadly, it is impossible to make someone love you. The heart is constant when it comes to love. The heart can love a person for as long as it allow itself to be. The heart can change but not when it comes to love. Once you love someone, there’s no turning back. You will love that person for the rest of your life even when you’re no longer together because when it comes to love, the heart doesn’t forget. The heart does not forget and even when they leave a bigger portion of their heart to someone else, there will always be a room for their past lovers. Why? Because the heart is kind and it takes in the beautiful memories and disregard the pain. Though the heart is kind, you still can’t work your way into it because the heart get to decide if it wants you to be in it and there’s nothing you can do about it. 

You’re nothing. Nothing.

I wish it would be as easy as climbing a mountain but even though you’re climbing the tallest, harshest mountain, it will still be easier than climbing into someone’s heart. 

Random Saturday

I'm happy. 

I was scrolling through Facebook today and I found out that most of my high school mates have moved on with their lives. Some are newlyweds, some expecting their first child and some happily working and chasing their dreams. I'm happy for each and every one of them. Seeing how much people have grown and how much they have changed into a better person made me happy on the inside, The fact that I know those people before made it even more sentimental. I'm just happy. 

I don't know how much I have changed but all I know is that I know myself better than I was before. I had to admit that I do want to feel what my friends are experiencing currently. I do want to have my own family. The one I can always go back to, a home. I want a job that I love and most importantly, I want to be happy. The idea is so sweet and even though I have absolutely no idea when that day will come, I still have faith. 

One day

Bridge

I feel like I'm on a long bridge that I'm currently going back and forth trying to cross it. I'm somewhere between the past and the present. I feel like this might be normal for people in their 20s because as they are growing up, they are realizing that they have to cross a huge bridge to adulthood. Yes, they do carry the title, 'adult' but they are mainly still under their parents' care and haven't actually live independently on their own. Some might but being new in this adult world, they still need some kind of guidance from actual adults whoever they are. I'm not saying that every people in their 20s face this kind of problems. Some do actually make it early and become a fully functional adults so kudos to them. 

What I'm saying is, this crossing over the bridge is real. We're still somewhat longed for our simple life as a child now that we've seen how complicated adult world can be but we also want to grow up and take control over our lives. It's a battle. And for me personally, I can't face the fact that I'm growing up. I have made a home in this uncomfortable bridge and decided to remain on it for as long as I can. Why? Because I'm hella scared. Taking control means taking responsibilities on whatever action you choose to shape your life and that is scary in a way that you might mess up. It's easy to mess up when someone else is in change because you can just say sorry and move on with your life while the people in charge will find a way to fix your error. However, you're in charge when you're a grown up. No grown up will fix a mistake of another grown up. They literally have their own to take care of. 

So..

Where shall we stand now? Should we cross it and take up whatever risk that might come our way or should we wait for a while? I really can't say. 

sorry

i fail.

POSSIBILITIES

possibilities

in life, I learn, there are countless possibilities. those possibilities changes from time to time due to several factors and usually you are the one responsible for each and every changes made and possible things that might occur.

I have also come to understand, fully, that everthing is uncertain. if there are countless possibilities in life, there ought to be countless paths in life that we can take which would only strengthen the understanding that everything is uncertain. and because of that, shouldn't we feel insecure or even afraid of what might or might not happen since, clearly, there's absolutely nothing that we can predict?

no. yes.

uncertainty will most definitely scares us. we will never know what will happen in the future. we could even die this very minute and yet, we live. we survive every day and start a new day again tomorrow. still, we would never know what the future might hold. but possibilities, possibilities make things interesting. you can never imagine what might happen to you in the future but that's fine because there's always a possibility that everything will be okay, that you might live to see another day again tomorrow.

but then again, there's a possibility where things might turn to worst and when that happen, you will know that you don't get to decide how you want your life to be. it's rather confusing at first, I know. I had to stop everything that I was doing and fully gave my attention to this matter when I first thought about it. of course, it the basic understanding in life that things are uncertain and there are countless possibilities in life yada yada yada but to truly understand and to except the fact is another matter.

it's whether you are capable of living your life and accept it as it is or not for you can never predict it but you can always live your life to the fullest and always be thankful for every possibility that comes your way be it good or bad.



I'm mumbling. enough for now